- You now are so afraid of rejection that the only thing you can accept is the present. The here and now. Why? Because the here and now has never rejected you. Is that because the here and now wanted things to be the way they are. Fuck no! You can't change the past you can't even change the present the only possible change is the future, but that requires work. That requires you to accept the inevitable rejection the future will present to you. Why? Because that old carnival saying "you can't win if you don't play" applys to all life. Sure 90% of the time you will walk away without a damn thing, but the prize of a lifetime furfeild with the few moments of maybe and the occasional crap prize is a centilion times better than a final moment of what if I had actually tried. Die with regrets of what would have been if circumstances had been different. Not what would have been if I had actually taking the time to try...